-- Posted by sweetcutie8 at 7:07 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for a year and almost a half. Things are great normally, I'm 17, he's 19. One day he's so afraid to lose me, he'll cry and care about me to a button. Then recently before the holidays he said he doesn't see our realtionship going anywhere..mainly because of college and what i don't understand is why he's so in love one day and the next he's not. We decided to wait until the holidays are over, but now he's acting very plain and I want to talk to him about it...but I'm so afraid to lose him..any advice? -- Posted by hooray for rootbeer at 7:08 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 tell him how you really feel. -- Posted by SheMintsEclectic at 7:09 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Don't be afraid to talk with him. Relationships are all about comminucation. Tell him about you concerns, and try to work through your problems. -- Posted by xxxnascar17xxx at 7:09 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 talking is good. thats the best way to get through to someone...im 17 and my bf is 20...im takin him to college with me...im afraid to lose him and i refuse to leave him back home -- Posted by sweetcutie8 at 7:10 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 should i wait till after my things, like tommorrow lunch with my friends with him, and tournament play..im so confused -- Posted by Rastafarian at 7:14 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 You shouldn't be afraid to lose him. If he leaves you over you wanting to talk about how you feel, and how you feel about him, and his personality quirks, then he was never really worth it at all. There could be alot of changes as to why he suddenly doesn't see the relationship progressing past where it is. Him going to college is a big one. However, that is an obstacle that can be overcome as long as both of you are determined to be together and are willing to sacrifice things for each other. Just because he is being pessimistic about the status of the relationship does not mean he does not care. It most likely means he is re-evaluating things in (most likely) a more realistic light. Really the most you can do is ask him what is going on with this. Ask if he even wants to continue the relationship. (sorry honey, but hiding from the question and running away from it won't keep your relationship together.) Basically ask him whether or not   he is commited enough to you to see this relationship through college, amoung other things. You should also ask yourself those questions. (seriously.) -- Posted by sweetcutie8 at 7:17 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Thanks above, it helps and hurts both to think that way. -- Posted by mapleafan at 7:28 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Just because he breaks up with you doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Maybe some things came up that forces you two to be apart for some time. -- Posted by theboss at 7:41 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 yea talk it threw and remember that every thing happens for a reason