Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic my best friend and her boyfriend. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [mod]Rastafarian[/mod] at 6:26 pm on Dec. 27, 2006[quote]It seems like she is not enjoying the fact that although she spends all her time texting and talking to her boyfriend, that you are ignoring her. So therefore, when she senses that you are annoyed at her for blowing you guys off, she makes up some fanciful story to make you feel sorry for her and forgive her, rather then admit what she is doing. Really it seems that she is completely focused onher boyfriend right now, and you and Alexa are quite put off by this with the lack of friendship from her recently. The single biggest thing I can tell you that may help, is sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you feel underappreciated and used. Tell her that its not fair for her to lie about her relationship towards you two just for attention. All in all [b]talk to her[/b]. Friendships just like relationships, communication is key. I've no idea what her boyfriend is like, but you may also want to talk to him as well (if he is open about that sort of thing). Say that you are feeling like he is taking your friend away. However, be very careful if you bring it up with him, people tend to get... agrivated when you start talking about those kind of things. I really hope it ends up better for you and her. Good luck.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post laurbot Posted at 6:07 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 So I need to know if were being selfish. Some background: Let's call my best friend Madison and her sister Alexa. Madison has been going out with her boyfriend for a couple months now. Me, my sister, Madison and Alexa are all best friends. Madison land Alexa live about 40 mins from me, so me and my sister barely see them. Madison is with her boyfriend 24/7, and if not calling/texting him. Madison and Alexa sleep over our house sometimes. The last two times were not fun. Madison was on the phone with her boyfriend for 3 hours in MY room. I though ok maybe he jsut has to tell her something real quick, yeah right. So me, my sister and Alexa decided to go watch a movie downstairs. When the movie was almost over she comes downstairs and we all ignore her. (She didn't say anything, but she was sitting behind me) Then she went into the bathroom. She texted me saying she broke up with her boyfriend and was crying. So we felt bad, gave her a hug, ya know. Later we find out they never broke up. Attention? The second time, again she was on the phone with him. Locking her self in the bathrooms in my house and then going outside. So me, my sister and Alexa locked ourselves in my room. Again, when she was off the phone and came to us, we ignored her. She kept knocking on the door, but we didn't answer. So then she says "Guys, I have something dunny to tell you. I broke up with him". So we felt bad, again and let her in. They got back together the next morning, supposedly.   For my Sweet 16, we took a party limo and I took some friends to see a broadway play, the whole time she was texting him, even during the play. So for New Years, my family will be with hers. That means she will be bringing her boyfriend along. I'm absolutely dreading this. We're going out to a resturant and then coming back to my house. Her parents didn't even ask mine if she could bring him, her dad just said "add him to the reservations". Me, my sister and Alexa all know what's going to happen. When he's around, she's totally different and it just isn't the same, not to mention probably will be making out. In conclusion, my New Years will probably suck. So what do you think? Is it right for us to not want her boyfriend there?

Replies laurbot Posted at 7:35 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Thanks, Rastafarian. Rastafarian Posted at 6:26 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 It seems like she is not enjoying the fact that although she spends all her time texting and talking to her boyfriend, that you are ignoring her. So therefore, when she senses that you are annoyed at her for blowing you guys off, she makes up some fanciful story to make you feel sorry for her and forgive her, rather then admit what she is doing. Really it seems that she is completely focused onher boyfriend right now, and you and Alexa are quite put off by this with the lack of friendship from her recently. The single biggest thing I can tell you that may help, is sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you feel underappreciated and used. Tell her that its not fair for her to lie about her relationship towards you two just for attention. All in all talk to her. Friendships just like relationships, communication is key. I've no idea what her boyfriend is like, but you may also want to talk to him as well (if he is open about that sort of thing). Say that you are feeling like he is taking your friend away. However, be very careful if you bring it up with him, people tend to get... agrivated when you start talking about those kind of things. I really hope it ends up better for you and her. Good luck. PixieIyz Posted at 6:20 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 yeah its fine if u dont want him there. i wouldnt either, but that doesnt change anything. so just try to enjoy yourself. ignore them...like u usually would if it was just her. Stupidfacex Posted at 6:15 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Totally.... PetitOiseau Posted at 6:09 pm on Dec. 27, 2006 Yes, she's spending all her time with him and blowing you guys off. All 5 previous replies displayed.