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I know this is long but I'd really appreciate if you read it and help me out.

Hello. I am going out with this great girl. We are both 17 and go to the same school. We have been going out now for 48 days. So here goes:
Right after our first date, Stephanie texted me and said that she wanted to hold my hand or something but couldnt figure out how to do it. I told her that it was ok and when she wanted to just dont even ask me just do it when she is most comfortable. So the next day, we went out on our second date and at the very end of the date she grabbed my hand.
Then about a week into it, I made a move on the first hug and she said she really liked it. So everyday after school before saying goodbye we hug. Then time went on another two weeks or so and I said in a text "should we be at the point where we have kissed?" she said sorry she was just not ready but what i meant was should we be at that point not that I wanted to right now. I explained that to her and we worked it out.
Then like another week or so later she texted me and asked me if I ever thought about doing other things than just holding hands, and if we should be at that point. She said its not what she wanted, but not what she didn't want. I told her that we will be at that point when she is comfortable and ready to be at that point.
Its day 48 and there has been no mention of kissing from either of us. Just like minute long hugs and a lot of hand holding. Now, I dont want anyone to think that I am looking to get in her pants or anything like that. I respect her so much and I'm not looking to just kiss her so I can kiss her, I only want to becuase I feel we are very close and I only want to get closer. I dont want to force anything on her at all.
I just dont know what to do. Should I say something or wait for her? I have been thinking about it for a long time and I dont feel right about asking or saying something because I dont want to be too pushy or seem...I dont know its hard to explain, but she knows that I am not the kind of guy who is just trying to be with her just to kiss and what not. I am going out with her because I honestly feel a special connection between the two of us and I love just spending time with her. If she doesn't even want to kiss, I would be ok with that because just being with her is the best thing. But thats the issue, I dont know if she does or doesnt and Im not sure what to do. Oh and this might help to know, we both have not gone out with people before, we went out back in seventh grade but decided to wait until High School to get serious. Also, we both have never kissed anyone.
Also real quick sorry, I was over her house last night. Before I left to go she sent me a text saying "haha! oh crap. My dad is taping the bc game downstairs so we would have to be in the living room but my sister is at her friends house and my dad is at the game and my mom will be in her room so we would kind of be alone. Ha ha " So I went there, I gave her roses i picked up on the way, then she gave me a hug. After that, there was barely any contact. Is it weird that I want her to I dont know like cuddle with me? She never does. I mean it would be nice if while we were on the couch she got close to me and grabbed my arm or something. I mean she told me that we would be alone and she said that it was a good thing. Why did nothing happen? Why am I so inclined to have her be romantic with me, or just plain cuddle?

Post edited at 6:03 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 by mattandsteph

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