Recently I introduce my boyfriend to my mother, however I did not find his behavior to be acceptable in front of my mother. He had very little manners and liked to swear a lot in front of her. He also went on talking about things that my mother doesn't need to know and that most wouldn't care to tell their parents as their parents wouldn't care to listen. It was embarrassing. I certainly don't want to introduce him to my father and I really don't feel comfortable ever taking him over there again. I know he is capable of being polite and presenting himself in a manner in which my parents would be very happy with him, but he doesn't seem to care. It's frustrating and I have no idea how to talk to him about it without it becoming an argument.

Recently he moved in with me as he got evicted from his apartment after being laid off from dell. There are annoyances but I do not mind it. I just pray my parents don't come over unannounced as they had in the past. On top of that he has been proactively looking for a job, however he is being far too selective. With the economy the way it is you cant afford to get picky. I've given him until the 15th of December to get a job. Otherwise i'm not keeping him around. It's just frustrating because I know I can get him a job at the Verizon Wireless call center, but he doesn't want to work in a call center. Even when the pay is decent and the benefits are wonderful.

Help, advice, comments would be appreciated.

If he deliberately presented himself the way he did, then that's the way he wants to be seen. As long as your parents aren't making your life too terrible over it, I don't think you should pressure him to be different. If you're embarrassed, I think that says more about you than him. But if your parents give you trouble, then maybe you can make him understand that.

As for the job thing.. how long has he been looking? When he has no luck for a long time, hopefully he'll lower his standards.

In terms of his behaviors, the best thing you can do is tell him straight out.  Personally, if my boyfriend acted like that, I would think he was being VERY rude and disrespectful to my family, and I won't put up with anyone that doesn't respect my family (as I would of course respect their own).

Bring it up and just start with something... "Hey, you know my mom wasn't happy with all the swearing.  That really made her feel uncomfortable, etc, etc".  And from there, just say that you would appreciate it if he toned down his language when he's around your parents.  I don't know how your boyfriend is with his own parents, but I know my boyfriend had a bit of trouble with the different set of standards between our two families.  I explained it all to him, and he knows how my parents are, and I know how his parents are.  It's not a matter of telling the person to change, or that they are rude, but just letting them know that your family environment is something different.  It may start an argument, and I always hate that... but some things need to be said, right?