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Replies: 13Last Post Aug. 29, 2008 9:40pm by ok2134
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How do you go about discussing sex rules with someone you have just met and are going to share a room with for the next year without coming off as some creep?

I'm a freshman in college this year and I don't know what my roommate's views are on sex and about having other people in the room while having sex.  I know I wouldn't feel comfortable having sex with my boyfriend with her or anyone else but me and him in the room.  How do I go about setting up these rules or talking about this stuff with her without it being awkward?

And if she feels the same, what kind of ways could we express our want for the other to leave the room for some privacy?

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Um most people just put something on the door and have a codeword like "damn the color on that is kind of BLUE"


where blue would mean "get the fuck out so we can fuck"

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Um, have you gone over the rules of the dorm/hall your staying in? wtf??

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straight up, say heres a set of ground rules i have and then tell him/her and if thye don't agree, well you may have to work around the problem

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In my opinion, no sex in the dorm room. No exceptions. I told both of my roommates if they bring guys home I will spend the entire night moaning twice as loud than they ever could.

Bitches ain't shit.

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Quote: from A Red One at 2:10 am on Aug. 11, 2008

Um, have you gone over the rules of the dorm/hall your staying in? wtf??

What do you mean dorm/hall rules?  Overnight/regular guest rules is a room to room decision.

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Well, I've been to two different colleges that had specific rules for that kind of thing. Everywhere is diff I guess. *shrugs*

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just put some thing on the door like a ribbon or something

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Quote: from SheMintsEclectic at 9:11 pm on Aug. 10, 2008

In my opinion, no sex in the dorm room. No exceptions. I told both of my roommates if they bring guys home I will spend the entire night moaning twice as loud than they ever could.

Bitches ain't shit.


ROFL

That's awesome

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Quote: from ranman at 12:34 am on Aug. 11, 2008

Quote: from SheMintsEclectic at 9:11 pm on Aug. 10, 2008

In my opinion, no sex in the dorm room. No exceptions. I told both of my roommates if they bring guys home I will spend the entire night moaning twice as loud than they ever could.  

 Bitches ain't shit.


ROFL

That's awesome


Yeah, roommate has a boyfriend. she didn't look happy. I didn't come to school to listen to your man's weak ass love muscle. Go to his goddamn room.

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The best rule is to have no rules. You both are old enough t o be in college,to have sex with boys and you each have a right to the room. It doesn't bother me if my room mate is having sex with a boy as long as it isn't too loud. So I guess the only rule is to keep the noise level down unless we both have a boy there and then it doesn't matter.

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Just simply discuss things with the roommate.

My roommate and I had a long sit down, about it, when I started having sex.

I told her, "We'll probably have sex, in my room, door shut. But, I will tell you, before hand, that he's coming, that way, if you want to leave, you can. YOu don't have to."

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If it's romance and loving that you want, you go someplace fore the week end or the night. If it is just sex you're having, it doesn't matter if the other one of us is in the room alone or also with our girl friend. It's just sex, fun and pleasure. None of us are modest anymore at our age.

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Freshman year my roomate had a girlfriend from a nearby College and she would come quite often and spend the night.

We never discussed it, however, he did say it was "wrong" to kick someone out of the room for sex when we were discussiong someone else's situation.

Now, what I believe in is that I paid for that room too, so there's no way in hell you're kicking me out so you can have sex at the expense of me sleeping.

However, if his girlfriend only visited once or twice, I would have been fine leaving for one or two nights out of the entire year - special occasion, and all that....but when his gf was over multiple times every month, then no, not happening. What's more, both lived locally, and could have easily gone to eachother's HOUSE instead! lol

They slept together and shared a bed - never had sex there - and it didn't bother me one bit.

Hypothetically - seeing that this never happened - if something was tied to the door, and i came back from a night out, then i would def not barge in! But I would knock at what I deem would be an appropriate time. Again, I paid for that room too, so no one has the right to tell me I can't be in there.

So I agree - no rules is the best policy.

If you're not bothered listening to someone having sex, then that's fine. If you are bothered, then say something because it's not right for your roommate to disturb you.

If your roommate is bothered with you being there while she/he is having sex, then too bad.


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